Family w/ 13 year old considering permanent move: BVI, V Gorda,Tortola

Hi: My husband and I and our 13 year old boy are ready for a big move from California. We've somewhat narrowed it down to your area. We desire
1) Gorgeous TROPICAL area that is not completely overrun with tourism
2) A breezy ocean-front cottage (right on the ocean front): not a mini-mansion but a pretty little breezy thing...
3) Other teenagers and families, and a friendly attitude toward expats.

Can anyone speak to the following points for for me? SO appreciate it!
• Quality of Schools
• Is the culture upscale/entitled/wealthy, or more down-to-earth?
• Is there an attitude toward “Gringos”? : mostly concerned that my son won't get treated harshly for being American • Safety: crime
• Beachfront rentals – affordable? Available?
• Alcoholism, drugs etc.
• Are American kids excluded at all?
• What side of street do cars drive on? Can we keep car?
- Can we bring our pet dog (fully vaccinated, etc.)

Thank you so much!

Funny that one of your first questions isn't about the availability of work. It must be nice not to have that concern? I guess most of our members would really envy the position you're in.

Cheers,
William James Woodward, Expat-blog Experts Team

Well....we're not wealthy or anything.  We've created enough savings to not worry for awhile, and I intend to teach workshops in the USA a few times a year....Blessed in the biggest ways:  great family   :)