What salary to expect for an IT professional with 13+ years of exp

It's hard with a small child to put in many long hours of work for 2 people.
life changes when you have a child, they must come first or they will pay later.
I didn't have a child to have it raised by a day care center which was what was happening when I started my career.
No one was happy in the house.
My cousin's husband was from India, they met in the US in college when she was 17.
He passed on a couple years ago, she is in her mid 70's now.
Their daughter met her husband in London at the school of economics, he is from India too.
OK, so they both moved to NYC after college and both got great jobs.
She got pregnant and now they moved to Texas where he got a better job and she stays home with the baby.
His current income is equal to what they both made in NYC after paying high rents in NY etc.
Sometimes moving to a less expensive area makes the difference between one income or two.
It's not easy to toss a baby into a career life unless you have a great solid support system behind you.
My niece is now a widow of 6 years. Her girl is 13 now.
She had a good job before they had their baby. Her husband was in IT, not sure what he did but he was making over $175,000 a year in FL. They sent him to FL from Ca.
He got ill and died...
My niece got herself together and went back to work, took some time to find a good fit for her as a single mother who needed money( Her husband's illness took out all their savings, over $300,000) She had support from her in-laws, father, cousins and brother.
They all helped child sit so she could work and get herself back on track.
She never went to college but makes a decent income of now over $100,000 as a facilities manager for a top IT co. in SF.
Started at $75,000 but got raises due to her hard work and skill, a real people person who now manages 3 offices. One in SF, one in Las Vegas and one in Chicago.
Can't expect things to fall into place overnight.
Not the same level of living they had when her husband was alive but still not too bad.
Moving to another country isn't easy so one should expect things to be different, maybe starting low and working up is all one can do.
I'm rather lucky my husband perfered to support everyone by just working a bit harder to cover the little money I would of made, I was needed at home more then we needed a extra paycheck. Not everyone has that choice though.
I've mention before that on a lark my husband answered an add around 15 years ago in HU just to find out how much they would pay for his skills.
In the US he owned 3 machine shops, not all at the same time, had a good steady job as a free lance machinist working for other Hungarians in Ca. He would bid on his own jobs and did piece work,  brought home in the mid 1980's a check of $1,250 a week for only 30 hours of work. Had loads of free time to spend with us at home. In HU they said the machine job was min. wage! Insane how low some wages are in HU.
Now a machinist is hard to find and I'm sure at least in the US they would be willing to pay for quality skills but too bad we are retired now. In another 10 or so years they will not be able to find anyone who can do work by hand.
Can't always get what you want or so the song goes...