daveinvietnam wrote:Paying compliments and generally being nice to each other is not really dont that much by Vietnamese sad to say, I have a Vietnamese friend who is female and we often talk about the difference in our cultures[I am English], where as I might say to her you are looking nice tonight her family and friends have often said the exact opposite.
It goes much deeper, if a Viet builds a nice house the neighbors never compliment them on it, they only ever comment in the negative never in the positive, same as you never here phrases like 'oh they are a lovely couple', or ''such a nice family'', I have no idea why this is and of course there is bound to be the odd exception, but it is a shame really.
Yes, you are right.
I hope many Vietnamese people will learn from foreigners who always think positive.
I am trying to be always postive, and pay compliments as much as I can. But sometimes, when I pay some compliments, some people dont believe me , maybe because they feel shy, maybe they arent familiar to compliments (I dont know exactly the word 'familiar' is right or wrong here). When I try to treat someone well, they wonder: why she is good?
Now, many foreigners live in Vietnam. I hope Vietnamese will change...