Its your baby... be a responsible person and live up to your mistake ... accident or whatever you want to call it...
For me, the baby didn't make a choice, the baby didn't ask to be born, but since you are the father .. either live up to the responsibilities of raising the baby or abandon the baby now.
Sounds cruel ? Yes, better for everyone, for the baby for the mother to be and for you.
Why?
Very simple fact, you are debating and second guessing on what is the right thing to do and how much it cost...Sad, very sad.. tagging a value to the baby's future and well being.
For some of you gentlemen out there, don't peg a USD$ value to a relationship .... its demeaning to the women... treat them well.... with respect..
We are in Vietnam as foreigners, respect their culture, respect their values, respect their people... if you can't do that then why are you here?
Just my personal opinion.