vetretreat wrote:"When you were 20 or 25 and cruising the malls or clubs, were you eyeballing and drooling over all the elderly women?"
TeeJay I can say this when I was in my late 20's I had seen many older women who were in their 50's and even mid 60's whom had taken good care of themselves which I most undoubtedly would had wanted to be with but was to shy to hit on them...That is why now being in my mid 60's I exercise regularly, eat right and take good care of my skin so my much younger wife sees me in the same light at I did those beautiful, fit, healthy older women back then...Women I could had easily fallen in love with, instead of hooking up with a young girl, so vane and having her nose in her cell phone all day long. In fact at age 29 I had lived with a beautiful very sexy woman of 49 who worked as a model for McCall magazine..To many Filipinos and Expats who visit this blog just assume all are fat, balding, arthritic, near blind and I can assure you that is not always the case..
Realistic responses are comprised of realistic experiences. For each person responding they will be different as is mine. I will say again that there are always exception of which you are one. There is not enough room in a simple response to list all the pro's and con's and experiences of all of those who have lived or are living in the Philippines. I for one in the company of friends did not go out looking for older women, were some attractive, you bet, were we too shy to approach them, maybe. In one case I was at the age of 22 introduced to a woman in her late 40's who was very attractive and I found her to be funny and intelligent, she spurned my affections stating that she felt our age differences to be a little more than she was willing to accept. Would it have worked, who knows.
I myself self told my wife that I was old bald and broke and she laughed, was I broke, no. Bald not completely. Attractive, to some. She happened to be the one with whom I clicked. Fate? maybe. Would I have had a good relationship with a younger woman, I believe that with dedication to the relationship on both our parts it is possible.
We also need to be able to laugh a little about the old guy, young women stories.
In the case of my good friend, he fell in love with a flirtatious young women who knew how to push his buttons. There were red flags that he chose to ignore. He has learned from his experience moved on. I and my wife have also told him that should he meet a young woman here and they live happily ever after. That is what we hope for him and her.
One size does not fit all and I concluded my previous post by alluding to that. I and no doubt you and others have seen many relationships that have failed or succeeded regardless of the age difference. Any relationship takes work to work. In both our cases we have apparently been blessed with happiness and love and the ability to laugh at ourselves and life.
All the best to you and your loving wife.