I have been to the Dominican Republic a few times in the past. About a year and 5 months ago, I met a girl online and spoke with her for about a year before meeting her for the 1st time in Santo Domingo. I wanted a serious relationship and to find someone I may eventually marry. I stayed in Zona Colonial and she traveled from her home to my apartment to see me for 2 weeks. We continued our relationship and the next time I stayed at the Malecon Center. I have not sent this girl one dime from America expect on her birthday I sent her $30.00 Not much but I have only been seeing her for 5 months. The last time I went there (2nd time with her) there were a couple of strange things I noticed. She had saved in her phone a guy named Sexi. It looked really bad but same the photo saved in her contact and saw that it was her cousin. She said everyone in her family called him sexy because he's really buff etc. 2nd thing was her phone was on silent the entire month I was there. She showed me her contacts to show me she didn't have any men saved in her phone. But she neglected to tell me she did have other men saved in her 2nd phone that she got for free from her phone company. She uses Orange and apparently you earn points when you stay with them so she has two phones. Her main phone is a smart phone with an application called CM Security and with this application you are able to lock applications. She locked her whatsapp and contacts so I could not see them unless I knew her password but she did allow me to see her contacts and photos. Later I discovered that CM Security which is an anti virus but you can also hide your private photos so I am not sure if she hid some private photos also. I asked her about the men and one she said was a math tutor and the others were contacts she saved from her school on a group project. I have known her total time for 1 year and 5 months and she was never in school the whole time I knew her. Towards the end of my stay I overheard her talking with a girl on the phone and she was laughing and said tomorrow. I heard a girl's voice so I know she's telling the truth about that. I asked what that was about and she said it was a friend from work. The next day she tells me that she wants to go shopping to buy things for her hair. I asked if she was going with the girlfriend she was speaking with on the phone she was talking to yesterday. She said no she was going by herself. I told her I was off work tomorrow so why not just wait one more day. She refused and said she wanted to go that day. She was gone for five hours. During this time she was gone I called her the 1st time I heard very loud music in the background. She answered by accident. The 2nd time I called she answered and hung up. After that I called 22 times. I know that seems crazy but I had a bad feeling because I have not known stores in the Dominican Republic to play music that loud and thought it was strange she answered then hung up. She never answered after that. While she was gone I found a condom in her purse in a separate compartment she had the condom right next to her bank card and ID card also I had found a receipt from two weeks ago so I know she uses that compartment. When she returned to the apartment I asked her what happened with her phone. She said she never answers the phone for anyone in the street because she was robbed for her phone 3 times. In her defensive her brother was killed in the street so I have some sympathy in regards to that. But I did find it very suspicious that she only returned with four things because I asked her what she bought and they were all things for her hair. I asked her what took her five hours because she could have bought this all in one place. She said she was to two different places and was trying to find the best price. I asked her about the orange (her favorite Gatorade drink) flavored condom I found in her purse and she said she got that from a bridal shower three years ago and forgot it was there. I asked why she didn't throw it away and she said she did not see it. I asked how that was possible when it was right next to her id card and bank debit card and a receipt from her bank withdraw from two weeks ago. She swears she never saw it there that when she goes in her purse she only takes what she needs. I yelled at her and sent her back home to her parents then texted her tons of nasty messages for 6 hours. We patched things up and stayed together my final three days. However, I am very suspicious and considering not returning. I work from home so I stayed there one month trying to make sure I didn't have issues with the lights and internet while I was there and I was considering living there to see if the relationship was real. I was wondering have any of you experienced a Dominican woman shopping so long and hardly buying anything at all? Is this normal here? I want to emphasize that I have not given this girl money other than for taxis when I am in her country for her to visit me. Does this look as bad to everyone else has it did to me? Why couldn't she answer the phone for five hours? I understand the condom if she was single but we have both been to the clinic together and been tested and do not use condoms so it was not for me. How could she possibly not see the condom? Am I over analyzing and this does not look as bad ?