lon1 wrote:dags wrote:Thank you for all the advice you have given. I think I will try approaching the mosque for help. No need to rush. Yes I am in Leeds. It would be nice to find someone nearby. As you have said there a lot of things to consider. Travel. Visa depending on the motive. If its meant to happen it will. I have lost nothing being alone so far. In fact I have peace. If there is someone out there I will find.
Once again thanks for the advice.
Totally agree. Well said.
I was actually in a similar situation as you in the past. I decided to get married, and those I came across here in the UK, were not to my taste. I gave up searching (maybe too easily and too early), and chose to go to morocco (to meet the family of my moroccan neighbours of 15 years, for possible marriage), thinking it will solve my problem of not finding someone conservative and family-oriented, amongst other values I was seeking. I couldn't be more wrong. What I realized in morocco, is they will put up an act to impress you. What I mean by that is, if you tell them that you're looking for someone religious, then they will act as that person, by wearing the hijab and whatever else required, in order to convince you. I was sent photo's of that person, fully covered, hijab, and everything. Later on, when using their computer in morocco, I found pictures of her in very different clothing. Even the manner in which she carries out salah, was incorrect.
I had trusted my moroccan neighbours (another mistake), who told me, she is the type I'm looking for. What one needs to know is, they are happy to plan behind your back, if it benefits their family. So they didn't care about me at all, and were happy to deceive me, in order for their family to benefit, by bringing her here. I ended up losing quite a lot of money on this relationship. I had completed all the paper-work, travelled 5 times, and everything was done. By the way, you did mention fiancee visa. I had also asked her that in the past, as I was sick of all the paper-work that had to be done in morocco, as it's much easier in the UK, but I don't think they would be provided with one, as she told me she can't get it.
All in all, it was my fault. I rushed, I was too trusting, I didn't do my homework and carry out a thorough research regarding moroccan marriage scams, I gave up the search too easily and too early in the UK, I didn't look at other options, such as searching in other Western countries (where visa won't be a motivation for marriage). I'm 26. I'm not desperate at all to settle down. My family is religious, and kept telling me it's my religious duty to get married. I agreed with them, and went ahead to get it done. I've learned a lot over the course of the relationship. And based on my experience and knowledge, I advise people wishing to go to morocco, not to do so, as most likely they will end up the same way I did, or worse. While it's true we can't judge everyone the same, but what makes that person any different to the other scammers? It's very difficult to tell, as lying is very common in that country. They will tell you everything that they know you want to hear & will agree with. They will all act, as they know what the plan is. It's funny how they were so "kind" and "friendly" when I was there, and the moment I told them I no longer want to continue, they all started shouting and swearing, wanting to fight me, revealing their true colours. A lot of people come back, and tell me, "the family were so nice". Of course they will be "nice" if you're there to take their daughter to Europe. Try telling them that you don't want the relationship any more, then see how nice they really are...
Avoid morocco like the plague
Quite agree- wish I had listened to that old saying.......'marry in haste, regret at leisure'