Oh please ! - I'm no counsellor nor would I pretend to be , but like one or two other people on this forum , I get a bit jaded by the way you regularly upset people with your " straightforward, upfront " ways !!!
Seems to me like you're quite happy to be as forthright as you please with people , yet the minute someone raises a voice in protest , up come the hackles and defensive comments !!! - well I'm afraid the world doesn't work like that ! - you give it out , then expect some back !!!!