Culture, customs and traditions in regards to courtship

If you are to develop a relationship it's important to know the values of the culture the girl belongs. Buddhist, Muslim or Tamil? Each of those have their own values and practices as well. Respecting their cultures and values will avoid a lot of mistakes.

I guess balance mistakes can be common to any other country and the areas can be trust, greed, intension and bond. Are those in comfort level or not?

I just wrote what maybe relevant to your question in my opinion.

makhma wrote:

If you are to develop a relationship it's important to know the values of the culture the girl belongs. Buddhist, Muslim or Tamil? Each of those have their own values and practices as well. Respecting their cultures and values will avoid a lot of mistakes.

I guess balance mistakes can be common to any other country and the areas can be trust, greed, intension and bond. Are those in comfort level or not?

I just wrote what maybe relevant to your question in my opinion.

In Vietnam I have only been exposed to Buddhist and Catholic. However Catholic in Vietnam are not the same as america. But learning is a good way to avoid mistakes.

ancientpathos wrote:

Just adding to my knowledge base. Maybe Lucky can answer this, in regards to dating and courtship in Sri Lanka. What are the typical mistakes expats make?

So Sorry R,
I missed your thread cos I was lil out of net use previous days.
Main idea of  foreigners visit Sri Lanka is for starting a business or just for site-seeing! 
Not majority of women start affairs with foreigners. If they do that is only as secret affairs. Even prostitution is not legalized in Sri Lanka. But it is happening illegally. Some poor woman with or without husbands go for money.
Spa/Massage places can be found. Casino too.
Typical mistakes expat make are mostly using those places.
Specially they must know that most decent ladies are not prepared to have dating with an unknown foreigner otherwise the ladies who smell money of the white skin. But if the lady knows the expat before he comes to the country, this type of affairs can not be considered as simple.
All the ladies who do house keeping for you are not prepared for an affair. But some!
Not a lot of bar girls here as there are not much bars here.
Two kinds of girls may pay interest towards you.
(1) a woman needs to help you physically for money
(2) a genuine girl (specially a divorced/widower) who needs to start an affair ends up with a legal marriage
Ladies may not come as your date other than above two reasons. But you can go to a dinner out with a wife but her husband too may join you. .

Hi the best way to find a Sri Lanka lady for  marriage.  is let it be known  that you are looking for     a Sri Lanka lady to marry.  This is were you start,  talk to  jet wing or other trusted tourist taxi driver. They know the   family's of lady's who would want to marry white European. To find the right lady would take you all over the island. You can get married and engaged at the same time. Don't be in a rush it dose take time to contact the lady and set up a meeting. Usually at the zoo or other public place.

panasonic wrote:

Hi the best way to find a Sri Lanka lady for  marriage.  is let it be known  that you are looking for     a Sri Lanka lady to marry.  This is were you start,  talk to  jet wing or other trusted tourist taxi driver. They know the   family's of lady's who would want to marry white European. To find the right lady would take you all over the island. You can get married and engaged at the same time. Don't be in a rush it dose take time to contact the lady and set up a meeting. Usually at the zoo or other public place.

You were so lucky to have a lucky lady as your wife in Sri Lanka!!
you can meet her in any public places as a coincident (but in a zoo??? )

Look at Sunday classified and contact options of your choice directly or interview few marriage brokers and go with a broker that you are comfortable. They will show you interested girls or parents who wishes to marry their daughters to foreigners.
That's straight forward and effective method as far as I think.

makhma wrote:

Look at Sunday classified and contact options of your choice directly or interview few marriage brokers and go with a broker that you are comfortable. They will show you interested girls or parents who wishes to marry their daughters to foreigners.
That's straight forward and effective method as far as I think.

Hi Makhma,
My friend Ancientpathos  just wanted to to know few ideas of dating & courtship only. He doesn't want a bride in Sri Lanka. 
He has said it clear...."Just adding to my knowledge base. Maybe Lucky can answer this, in regards to dating and courtship in Sri Lanka. What are the typical mistakes expats make?"

I am not too sure but surely will vary depending on background of the girl. Buddhist, Christian, Muslim are with different values and differ in how they socialize. And also it will depend on target age group. I am unable to give a suggestion that maybe common to all. ))

Thanks Mal for posting and clearing things up.

ancientpathos wrote:

Thanks Lucky for posting and clearing things up.

Your welcome! How the things in your side of the planet Ron???

Life is good Mal. I am in Thailand right now trying to act 21 again. I just can't remember being this tired at 21. 

ancientpathos wrote:

Life is good Lucky. I am in Thailand right now trying to act 21 again. I just can't remember being this tired at 21. 

That is nice. But about courtship or dating is totally different from Sri Lanka, remember ?

mal wrote:

ancientpathos wrote:

Life is good Lucky. I am in Thailand right now trying to act 21 again. I just can't remember being this tired at 21. 

That is nice. But about courtship or dating is totally different from Sri Lanka, remember ?

Totally different, maybe I need to redefine what I need in my life. I am flying to the states to see my son for 4 weeks. When I return I think it is time to visit Columbo, maybe run an add in the paper for a wife. How many can I have there? Three seems to be a lucky number.