bta87 wrote:OBB,
So this controlling everything is part of the package if you marry a VNese lady. Oh my word! That sounds just like my situation. If this is the case I just could not live in such a controlled environment. Heck I was not controlled that much by my parents when I was young. Now I need that at 63, no way!
bta87, I have found that even my housekeeper after intimacy takes on the role of controlling wife. I am now on my 3rd housekeeper and hopefully she will not turn into that controlling nightmare. I fired her once, rehired her and she is much better now. I just spent a week with her family, this was the 3rd time we met. I was treated very well and had an enjoyable time. Yes I also gave her some money to give to her family in the red envelope, mainly $2 bills plus I matched whatever she gave. Also I got a lot of goodwill by purchasing a fridge for her mother. I did it mainly because I wanted cold beer and ice for my scotch. Best of luck to you.