EXPAT-BLOG IS NOT A DATING SITE

but why we cant what about if i like som1 and want to meet her i think taht not fair and sorry that just my personal opinion

@ simosamo: because there are sites specialised in that and Expat.com is (obviously) not one of them.

Thanks
Armand

hi Mr., Expat.com is not for dating...this site is for everyone but not for dating purposes, they created this forum to help and assist other expatriates  for their concerned specially for the new members who are new to a certain places. if you want to look for a date then leave this site. A lot of dating site out there. this is not the right place for you.

have a great day ahead.

Marry M.

simosamo wrote:

but why we cant what about if i like som1 and want to meet her i think taht not fair and sorry that just my personal opinion

It is possible that you meet some girls by one of the expat meetings organized by the members.
Or you like someone posts very much. When you like that you can start a private conversion by pm for example. But you can never post a topic by saying that you are looking for date.
It will immediately deleted by the team and it can cost your membership.

Thank you for posting this subject. A simple google search can reveal several sites for dating purposes. We need another post stating "Expat.com does not support the sponsorship of visas."




Matt V. - Manaus, Amazonas, Brasil
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i agree for you comment thats not a dating site but it's up the people who's join this Expat.com then it's not our own business if someone will develop feeling here!
people are free to shown their emotional feeling and i think there's nothing bad for this:)
enjoy!
cheers!

That is fine Lady Jaja.

However this is a private site. Should people want pursue something other than friends, a private message probably would be good - or maybe exchange e-mail addresses. Advertising and soliciting the need for a relationship or dating is not accepted here. It is in the code of conduct for all forums.




Matt V. - Manaus, Amazonas, Brasil
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Hi lady jaja,

Friendships and personal relationships aren't prohibited here or on any other social network. That would be impossible to do. What is NOT permitted here is posting on the open forums anything that seeks or offers a relationship. Obviously if someone starts up a friendship with another member and through private messages or e-mails they mutually agree that it should grow into something else that's between them.

What is not permitted here is flooding forums and unsolicited PMs to members that seek relationships.

NOTICE TO MEMBERS:  IF YOU RECEIVE A PRIVATE MESSAGE THAT YOU FIND OFFENSIVE OR IF YOU FIND A PARTICULAR POSTING OFFENSIVE THEN PLEASE REPORT IT USING THE "REPORT" BUTTON AT THE BOTTOM OF THE MESSAGE/POSTING

sir, but people are thing and due to that real people do not get proper responce too.

yeah i am totally agree with you.. this site is to help expats .

Hi..there...i am a new memeber

YES! That's what we look for; a clean and healthy forum. Trust and confedince should furnish the base of this forum.

Thank you Team!

that is true.. people are here dating and yet we are sharing ideas

I agree.

I looking partners and friendship at new country.

not a dating site? jeeezz... not looking for a date...at least for now... 

just want some breeze..

I'm a new member and I don't see what the problem is, if the site is not a dating site that's it.

Why anyone should find an issue with this I don't know because there are so many sites for dating that they could join.

I joined this site because I travel and was interested in receiving advice and suggestions from local people.

I agree with you completely Jeanie. Our rules are quite clear so they aren't difficult to understand.

Unfortunately, there are some men and some male dominated cultures that think rules are made for everybody else but them. Yes, I hear you and you're right, that idea is simply absurd. Dumb mistake #1.

Some men in these cultures think that it is their God (or whatever they call the higher power) given right to make unwanted and unsolicited passes at any woman who passes in front of them, whether they know them or not. They think they have the right to send out unsolicited and annoying private messages to every woman who joins Expat-blog since THEY all know that must be why women join the blog anyway. Dumb mistake #2.

So they start sending out unsolicited, obscene and annoying messages to whoever they please, post suggestive replies on topics posted by females. (Just look at how many men reply "Hi nice to meet you, let's get together for...." on a female posted topic, but the same men don't do it on a male posted topic.) They continue to do so until somebody reports them and they end up getting their membership cancelled. Dumb mistake #3.

Sad to say, there are even some women who do it too, but obviously they do it for other reasons altogether.

At any rate, Expat-blog is not a dating or matchmaking site, never will be... get used to that idea.

We encourage all members who receive unsolicited, unwanted, annoying or obscene private messages or who find a topic posting that violates rules to use the REPORT triangle at the top of topic postings or the ACTIONS button to report any annoying private messages and to block the user from sending more.

do you consider cyber dating is real dating?

Well, you won't have good reply to what you post in forum if you don't really know your Expats here.

So, I believe whatever you do here, it is primarily important that you know a person as well.

Otherwise, the forum platform here is pretty useless, don't you think?

Supercut wrote:

do you consider cyber dating is real dating?

Hi Supercut, 

Ha, haa, ha, cyber-dating is the word I was looking for ...
Now we have cyber-lives through blogs and web sites, now we have cyber-currencies, now we have cyber-trading and cyber-games. What next?

It seems something or somebody slowly and stealthily takes over our very existence ...   

I am new here but agreed with your opinion

As a relatively new member I also agree with the 'not a dating site' comments.  My first experiences with friends requests were they were mostly non european men, probably not ex pats.  A common theme was wanting to meet, wanting personal details, wanting pictures and private conversations to 'get to know each other'.

Whilst this is not a dating site I think it is important to point out that it can be seen by some as a source of contacting women that have relocated, that are looking for support and assistance and can then be seen as vulnerable or needy - again i add - BY SOME.

Please do not be misled by offers of friendship and requests to know more about you and meet.  These approaches are pretty obvious and you can actually feel the neediness of these 'friends' it really does often feel like you are being chatted up in a bar sometimes - if thats your bag ladies then go for it by pm.  But be aware of how you are exposing yourself, how your time is being wasted and how you are possibly being used.  Also be aware of how continuing these conversations encourage your 'new friend' and others and how much more prevalent this apparently subtle yet obviously blatant attempt at meeting a woman will become and the dis-service you are doing to other women and male members that simply want support and assistance at what can be a daunting time.

Thank you

rosy diver wrote:

As a relatively new member I also agree with the 'not a dating site' comments.  My first experiences with friends requests were they were mostly non european men, probably not ex pats.  A common theme was wanting to meet, wanting personal details, wanting pictures and private conversations to 'get to know each other'.

Whilst this is not a dating site I think it is important to point out that it can be seen by some as a source of contacting women that have relocated, that are looking for support and assistance and can then be seen as vulnerable or needy - again i add - BY SOME.

Please do not be misled by offers of friendship and requests to know more about you and meet.  These approaches are pretty obvious and you can actually feel the neediness of these 'friends' it really does often feel like you are being chatted up in a bar sometimes - if thats your bag ladies then go for it by pm.  But be aware of how you are exposing yourself, how your time is being wasted and how you are possibly being used.  Also be aware of how continuing these conversations encourage your 'new friend' and others and how much more prevalent this apparently subtle yet obviously blatant attempt at meeting a woman will become and the dis-service you are doing to other women and male members that simply want support and assistance at what can be a daunting time.

Thank you

Hi Rosy, 
Very beautiful women are already taken locally. They do not have time for cyber-romance with cyber-guys with cyber-money and cyber-outings. 

The rest of women receiving solicitations should delete them immediately without much fuss.
There is absolutely no need to make a case here unless it has humor or cyber-humor.

Who the heck is that woman who needs advice and re-advice?

This is not a dating site; as such there is no need to keep talking about what cyber-men do to cyber-women. Period.

Been on this site for a min of an hr and have had enough already clearly states married with kids....

Exactly - well said Rebeccaplus4 .  I do agree with John C no need to go harping on about things but it is frustrating when you are looking for genuine assistance and people use this site for ulterior motives.  It is a dis-service to an excellent site.  If someone is looking for a relationship - get a life and go out and meet people - or at least register with a dating site and dont be sneaky.  Personally I find these approaches quite paqthetic and could put people off using the site

I agree this to site is to connect with and also keep in touch with people from your country and other countries you want to go to or have been.
Also to build friendships and learn about others cultures and make friends!
This is a great site for doing those things!

I totally agree that this site is for assisting us ( EXPATS ) in this country that were working at. There are some people who stayed here for a long time that can lead us to the right answers that were looking for. There are some dating sites that you guys can go to and if you want some girls or guys here then you can send a private message instead of writing it on the forum. Set for example my case, I need a gynecologist in Amman and I am here in Aqaba, a bit busy with ky work and some people in Amman already pm me with the info that I need instead of going to Amman direct. Thanks a lot

tessajetson wrote:

I agree this to site is to connect with and also keep in touch with people from your country and other countries you want to go to or have been.
Also to build friendships and learn about others cultures and make friends!
This is a great site for doing those things!

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raylyn0909 wrote:

I totally agree that this site is for assisting us ( EXPATS ) in this country that were working at. There are some people who stayed here for a long time that can lead us to the right answers that were looking for. There are some dating sites that you guys can go to and if you want some girls or guys here then you can send a private message instead of writing it on the forum. Set for example my case, I need a gynecologist in Amman and I am here in Aqaba, a bit busy with ky work and some people in Amman already pm me with the info that I need instead of going to Amman direct. Thanks a lot

Hi people,
This is the right attitude!
If you happen to recommend this web site to your friends or acquaintances, tell them what you have now told us and also that this is a serious cyber-place for expats only.   

Why not

syedkamran84 wrote:

Why not

the founders decided it, and for many women, having this enforced means it is a place where we can come and participate in discussions without constantly being harassed by people who are hoping we'll marry them and provide access to whatever country/region they are dreaming of visiting.

Well Said ECS

'Why not ?'

how about 'Why ?'

Its an ex pat site not a prey on ex pats site - get a life ...!

Just make sure any unsolicited advances however seemingly innocuous are reported so we can weed these sad people out and benefit from an excellent service this site provides for genuine members.

rock on

posted wrong place - sorry

syedkamran84 wrote:

Why not

Try thinking about it from a point of view other than yours - think about what people are looking for on this site rather than your unrelated needs !

rosy diver wrote:

Well Said ECS

'Why not ?'

how about 'Why ?'

Its an ex pat site not a prey on ex pats site - get a life ...!

Just make sure any unsolicited advances however seemingly innocuous are reported so we can weed these sad people out and benefit from an excellent service this site provides for genuine members.

rock on

Hmmmm, how about we educate them (edit added: even if it requires shock therapy) and reformat them into useful and genuine expats?   

rosy diver wrote:

syedkamran84 wrote:

Why not

Try thinking about it from a point of view other than yours - think about what people are looking for on this site rather than your unrelated needs !

In other words, you are saying that 'don't do onto others what you don't want others to do to you' is the way to go even here. 

John C. wrote:

tessajetson wrote:

I agree this to site is to connect with and also keep in touch with people from your country and other countries you want to go to or have been.
Also to build friendships and learn about others cultures and make friends!
This is a great site for doing those things!

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raylyn0909 wrote:

I totally agree that this site is for assisting us ( EXPATS ) in this country that were working at. There are some people who stayed here for a long time that can lead us to the right answers that were looking for. There are some dating sites that you guys can go to and if you want some girls or guys here then you can send a private message instead of writing it on the forum. Set for example my case, I need a gynecologist in Amman and I am here in Aqaba, a bit busy with ky work and some people in Amman already pm me with the info that I need instead of going to Amman direct. Thanks a lot

Hi people,
This is the right attitude!
If you happen to recommend this web site to your friends or acquaintances, tell them what you have now told us and also that this is a serious cyber-place for expats only.   

ABSOLUTELY THE RIGHT ATTITUDE - WELL SAID - I have absolutely no hesitation in recommending this site because of this attitude and support from other members on hilighting these devious attempts.  You cannot stop strange people making self serving posts but obviously the members and administrators of this site are intelligent thinking people - good luck and well done EPB and its genuine members, glad to be part of it

John C. wrote:

rosy diver wrote:

syedkamran84 wrote:

Why not

Try thinking about it from a point of view other than yours - think about what people are looking for on this site rather than your unrelated needs !

In other words, you are saying that 'don't do onto others what you don't want others to do to you' is the way to go even here. 

Exactly John - well said, and apologies to everyone if i seemed to get off on this but this is an awesome site and I genuinely RESENT being treated like all I really need is a husband.  Anyway keep up the good work guys - Take care and best of wishes from the heart to all genuine expats

Rebeccaplus4 wrote:

Been on this site for a min of an hr and have had enough already clearly states married with kids....

Stick with it Rebecca cos it is a good site - just flip the saddos off and let admin know, you can genuinely get a lot from this site from genuine people - hang in there - im not admin and have no links to the site - just a user - Its a good site - Take care

I agree with that...of course you need to be very careful and you should know the person very well if he had good intentions or not....