How can an egyptian man get a divorce
Hello, thank you Egyptian blogger, for the divorce comments to the other website visitor/inquiry. Can you expand on it a bit for me?
I met an Egyptian man on line and we became very interested in each other. He was basically manipulated into a marriage with a cousin that he did not love when he was very young (17). His parents and her parents were obviously related and the woman is his cousin and now also his wife.
He never loved the woman but feared his family so he married her out of compulsion because they told him he must honor his parents wishes before Allah. So he married the woman and has never been happy with her.
Now he is 37 and has been married for so many years to this woman he has never loved and he is just sick with grief these many lost years. She does not enjoy sex and the marriage has been unhappy for him.
To make a long story short, both of his parents died, and he remained with his wife until he met me and fell in love with me, an American, and yes I know people think it is just for a green card, but I know that is not true. He is very sincere with me and is a very God-fearing Muslim. we have not even touched each other. The contact has been only verbal, with respect for God and religion until he is divorced.
He told her he wanted a divorce to marry another woman but she was outraged and went to divorce court and told the court crazy lies that he would leave the country and not support her or the children which is not true and she is demanding gold, and a house, and other financial support such as fifty thousand pounds which he does not have.
He is not a man of wealth. He has been a Barber for over 20 years. All these years they lived with her parents and no one ever made an issue about him buying her a house or giving her fifty thousand pounds but now that he wants a divorce there is this greed and demand of gold, a new house with new household appliances, furniture, finances and also alimoney and support that he simply does not have.
He is willing to pay alimoney and child support and even agreed to buy her a house but he does not have fifty thousand extra pounds and money to furnish the entire house on top of all that. What are his rights as a man in Egypt? can't he just get a simple divorce? I thought Muslims could just tell their wife 3 times they want a divorce. How can these people force him to give the wife money that he does not have.
They are telling him they will not let him out of the country if he does not pay her these things. How can that be legal civic court? Is this legal? Even the Quran says a man is only obligated by Allah to pay what he has within his means, that he is not obligated to pay more. Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease. Quran Sahih International (65:2)
He is telling me the lawyer and her family is demanding he pay her.Is this a some type of family-related religious obligation thing?
Can Sharia law help him get a simple divorce and pay her within his means?
Please give advice. Thank you.
Last edited by diamond5 (08 November 2012 03:40:10)