My husband and my concerns regarding prostitution.

Hi Ruby ...

Hope u doing geat ... I live in Abu Dhabi since 10 years and knows all the places ... Night life in UAE does not matter which place and manily in hotels are full of girls who approche u for services , all kind of girls , all natiaonlities and even if a man with his wife they also approhce ask for group service ... So just be careful ...

Men when they group espeicly once they go to hotel full of girls ohhhhh mean a lot ...

The most importnat thing is DO U KNOW UR HUSBAND VERY WELL...DO U TRUST HIM, DOES HE LOVE U ???? no matter where he goes if ur relations great then do not worry about him ...

ruby7 wrote:

My husband moved to Abu Dhabi just over two years ago. I see him for two weeks every three months or so.

Does he fancy plenty of rumpy-pumpy after he gets back? That should give you a clue



I am worried about the night life as I know some places he goes there are call girls, he goes to hotels to drink but not rough ones are there call girls everywhere in these hotels?

Everybody goes to a hotel to drink....there aren't any bars outside the hotels. There are working girls at all of the hotels, the posh places included.



I am told they are pretty full on approach men even if they are with their wives.

In some bars the girls are more aggressive than in others. Any girl who gets too aggressive or rowdy will be removed by the security.



I would like to know peoples experiences of this,I have been told a lot about it by my husband as he says his friend goes with these women I am concerned he is doing it too and am worried about STD's.

Then put a party pack of nunkies in his case next time he's heading off

Basically all has been said regarding that issue ...
I figure with regular visits between you guys he'll be reasonably ok .. but for a man who's here for a much longer period without his partner you have to get used to the lesser of two evils...
He may have a gf stashed away here after a while and that is the BEST option you can hope for in the bad news category ... at least in a 'stable' relationship of sorts he's not encouraged to mix and match via the other lures and multiply any risk a thousand fold

Thanks Jahbear, I suppose that I have to try not to think about it, I see him every four months and he is always sad to leave. When you say have a girlfriend do you mean a paid girlfriend or someone he would meet in the "normal" way? I was under the impression it was hard to meet women.
I just don't get why he goes to bars where prostitutes hang out if he isn't interested, he used to be such a prude but maybe that was for my benefit.

It is not a question of how easy it is to find a girl to sleep with... it is a question of commitment, faithfulness and ethics...

If your husband has strong ideals, morals and has strong a commitment to your relationship, then you have nothing to worry about... otherwise, if the ideals and commitment are forgotten even if he is most rural areas on earth... he will find a way...

having this said... There are some places where prostitutes approach men for sex... but usually descent places / hotels don't allow for prostitutes to enter...

im_in_the_desert wrote:

having this said... There are some places where prostitutes approach men for sex... but usually descent places / hotels don't allow for prostitutes to enter...

Who are you kidding?

There are hookers working at every last 4* and 5* hotel in the city.

Sandman6 wrote:

im_in_the_desert wrote:

having this said... There are some places where prostitutes approach men for sex... but usually descent places / hotels don't allow for prostitutes to enter...

Who are you kidding?

There are hookers working at every last 4* and 5* hotel in the city.

I'm kidding no one, this is the impression I got... some bars / nightclubs are actually visited purely by people interested in having a drink/ while enjoying listening to some music... On other hand, there are places where 95 % of the females visiting are prostitutes and the other 5 % are lost tourists... So there is a big difference...

however, you seem to know better...

They are there every Thursday night.....Emiratis, obviously the worse for alcohol, dish-dash all askew and a Chinese or Russian hooker on each arm

@Ruby 7
Its not a matter of understanding WHY he goes to those places as against what is natural for a guy. To work all day here and week will be stressful for most people here. The tendency is to get out and unwind and try for normalcy before goign back into that ruckus they call work..
For married committed and faithful guys its more about having a pint out in the open and most of all EYECANDY... Nothing more..JUST eyecandy ...
Check out whats happening , watch a few of your mates misbehave, try to stave offf the feeling of missing home and a loving  partner and be pre-occuppied with what's immediate and eye catching in whats happening around you ... as someone who fought severe anxiety by tlling myself that i needed to isolate myself in my residence.. unless you have kids and a partner there ...you'll go nuts trying to do it the way I did .. ESPECIALLY if you visit home maybe once or twice a year ....

As for the issue of meeting someone .. there are decent people you can meet here among your own working/social class by networking .. just somne to hang out with, chat with or a female (NON-INTIMATE) friend ... it may progress further .. in most cases it does not .. but sometimes.. in a few cases there are 'arrangements' made .. no for or against.. just telling you what IS..  but be not dismayed .. from what you tell me .. he may very well be one of the good ones we have to drag out of his residence JUST to have a drink ....lol

Hey Ruby

Dont be upset at your husband for going out for a drink at places where there's hookers ,cause its unavoidable .
As a women ,when i first came to Dubai I had no idea that there were hookers everywhere ,my first encounter was at a very up market cocktail bar at a 5 star hotel.  I was so surprised and even more surprised at how the hookers blend in ,they dont dress very tacky ,like with fish nets or whatever you see on TV ,lol !  Its common for "normal" women to b approached by men as well thinking that they prostitutes ,because they really are everywhere . My fiance` and I laugh about it ,he tells me stories about his boys nights out and when they a group of guys entering a club they are hounded by females negotiation prices ,he runs away or tells them he is marred and asks them to leave him alone and that's that.
Its not a laughing matter ,i know ,but there's also another side ,some of these women have been trafficked and they being forced into the "profession"  so I have stopped cursing them and insulting them ,i just pray for their souls ad as for those who go into it willingly ,they usually the aggressive ones.  Someone commented that hotels dnt let prostitutes in - did you know prostitutes enter hotels fully covered ? anyhoo my point is - there aren't any "prossie free" places - they walk amongst us -dressed like us  !   Its all about trust ,dont doubt your husband. If you constantly harp on the prossie thing ,you will unknowingly plant a seed in his mind and he will start thinking about it more often and then who knows . Rather put all your energy ino making your long distance relationship last ,have fun skype chats ,e-mails ,texting etc and when you do see him ,make him feel loved and treat him like you did when you first met and he wont have any reason to stray

the best solution is u must find a gir for ur husband and let him have fun with her so u will be in safe side and at least u will be able to know with whom he is plaing around...same as my wife did for me she found me a gf and we play all tgther

Leigh-lu wrote:

Hey Ruby

Dont be upset at your husband for going out for a drink at places where there's hookers ,cause its unavoidable .
As a women ,when i first came to Dubai I had no idea that there were hookers everywhere ,my first encounter was at a very up market cocktail bar at a 5 star hotel.  I was so surprised and even more surprised at how the hookers blend in ,they dont dress very tacky ,like with fish nets or whatever you see on TV ,lol !  Its common for "normal" women to b approached by men as well thinking that they prostitutes ,because they really are everywhere . My fiance` and I laugh about it ,he tells me stories about his boys nights out and when they a group of guys entering a club they are hounded by females negotiation prices ,he runs away or tells them he is marred and asks them to leave him alone and that's that.
Its not a laughing matter ,i know ,but there's also another side ,some of these women have been trafficked and they being forced into the "profession"  so I have stopped cursing them and insulting them ,i just pray for their souls ad as for those who go into it willingly ,they usually the aggressive ones.  Someone commented that hotels dnt let prostitutes in - did you know prostitutes enter hotels fully covered ? anyhoo my point is - there aren't any "prossie free" places - they walk amongst us -dressed like us  !   Its all about trust ,dont doubt your husband. If you constantly harp on the prossie thing ,you will unknowingly plant a seed in his mind and he will start thinking about it more often and then who knows . Rather put all your energy ino making your long distance relationship last ,have fun skype chats ,e-mails ,texting etc and when you do see him ,make him feel loved and treat him like you did when you first met and he wont have any reason to stray

Leigh-lu ... Very well said ... This sounds very reasonable

Thank you everyone for your comments, however I think I will give yours a miss HandsomeMe, that isn't my idea of fun I am afraid, haha, good luck to you though.

Jahbear thank you for this insight, I am learning a lot and realise it is not a bed of roses to work and live in Abu Dhabi, I intend to visit to give myself more of an understanding of how my husband lives.

Leigh-Lu..many thanks to you, I am trying really hard not to bring up the issue and am being more understanding than I was previously.

Sandman6 you are right about Thursday nights, as Friday is their day off , my husband told me about the prostitutes and that his frien partakes that is what alerted me in the firat place.

I'm sorry Ruby but I think you are well out of order thinking bad of your husband. I'm being completely unbiased in saying that if you can think like this about your husband, then why should he not think the say about you...are you doing the same as what you are thinking? I'm not suggesting or assuming anything, yes this comment may be harsh, but I hope after this you put yourself in his shoes. He left all his friends and family behind, to travel thousands of miles away, I hope, so his family can have a better life...and what he gets in return are accusations. I'm sure you made some vows when you got married to the guy, one of his vows would have been to be loyal and faithful to you, but return did you not make a vow to trust him? Well just on the basis of that does he not deserve better support from his 'wife'?

You have to make a choice about whether you trust him or you don't, and if you meddle in between, then eventually your paranoia will push him away anyway.

You may actually have a good guy!!!

Pabbm thanks for your comments, I totally agree that there has to be trust, however there is a little more to this than the post I put on here, hence my lack of it.
I certainly would not pay a male prostitute, however I understand that my husband could have concerns that I would have an affair.
We had time together recently and I have put the past behind me and am looking to the future, which means no accusations, or bringing things up.
Hopefully I will visit soon and see how he lives and have a better insight.

Well done, I'm glad things a little relaxed now.

But what you've got to consider is escorts out here are just as common back home, and in fact you'll be surprised at how many discrete places maybe be in your own neighbourhood, so what can be done out here, can be easily done back at home, in fact it's a lot easier in the UK.

If you don't mind me asking, what part of the UK are you from?

I live in the countryside in the Midlands. I can say I have never been in any bar or Hotel in the UK where it is prevelant, maybe it is more of a city thing...